In general, any person involved in a relationship often expresses their opinions and inner problems. These are none of our business. When someone tells you things like, "You're a failure," "You're rude," "You know what you're talking about," these words touch our hearts, "He doesn't have the right to say that," "What does he think?" "Why do you see me like this" thoughts come in, get offended, argue, and try to prove to the person that you are not wrong, and quarrels arise. Instead, if the other person yells at you, "I'm a failure," "I'm rude," "I don't know what I'm talking about," you'll only laugh. It means that the person who says these words accusing someone is only expressing his own inner problems. A person who does not have these things in his head does not have these problems and does not look for them from others. Because the person has such a problem, he brings up and expresses his emotional problems as a topic, and the things he says in jest, criticism, and the problem of blaming others show the character of a person that he does not like and cannot get along with. Therefore, it is good to accept the above-mentioned "You" attack with "I" and spend it with a smile. Think of that instigator of controversy, humiliated himself in public. By learning to accept in this way, your reactions become calm. But there is no need to explain or tell this thing to the person doing the attack. Just listen and smile. The lives of the majority of people who have been able to understand and realize their internal problems and external expressions have changed, and the atmosphere at home and work productivity have increased. Also, this problem has two sides, look at it from the other side. It means that you should pay attention to what you say to others. Look for and notice the answers to the questions about what issues do you want to argue with people, why do you express your thoughts in this way, what do you want to say out loud to the world. For example, if you or your child dies because of computer addiction, it will lead to a wise solution if you think about whether you have any addiction, how it affects you and what it is like to try to get rid of that addiction. If, for some reason, you are upset about some issue around you and express it often, it shows that your problem is not resolved within you and you are not reconciled with it. The issues that cause our frustration and strife are our innermost pains and cries. Understanding and accepting this is a great way to change life.