Fall in love in 4 minutes, 36 questions
by Baigalmaa staff
Fall in love in 4 minutes, 36 questions
Psychologist Arthur Aron conducted an amazing experiment 20 years ago, inviting strangers to his laboratory and asking them to answer 36 questions and talk to each other. He sat down couples who didn't know each other, asked them these questions, answered them sincerely and truthfully, and asked them to look into each other's eyes for 4 minutes after talking to each other. But, strangely, these people got married after about half a year. The secret of this experiment is that the interview about these personal issues makes people open, interdependent and close. It is also recommended that these questions can be used to improve the relationship between couples. Let's introduce these questions.

Out of all the people in the world, who would you like to invite to lunch?
Want to be famous? What do you want to be famous for?
Do you practice before you talk on the phone? Why?
What is a perfect day for you?
After 60 years, which of you, your body and your mind, would you like to be preserved?
Do you have a secret thought about how you will die?
Do you two have the same personality?
What is the happiest thing in your life?
If you want to improve your upbringing and character, what would you improve?
Can you tell me a little about yourself in 4 minutes?
What kind of personality do you want to be when you wake up tomorrow morning?
If the "crystal ball" tells you about your future, what exactly do you want to know?
Is there something you've been dreaming of doing for a long time? Why not do it?
Name the highest achievement in your life?
What qualities do you value in your friends?
What is your brightest memory?
Worst memory?
What is friendship?
What is the role of love and endurance in your life?
Name 5 positive traits of each other?
How close is your family? Do you think your childhood was happier than others?
How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
Can you make 3 sentences that start with "we" and are in the present tense?
Complete the sentence "I want to share my ... with anyone".
What should I know about you and yours in order to make a close friend?
Tell me what you really like about each other.
Tell me about the worst time in your life
Remember the last time you cried
What do you think should not be communicated as a joke?
If you die tonight, what is the most important thing and to whom?
If your house was on fire, after saving your loved ones, what would you go in and save if you had the chance?
Which of your family members would be the most affected by your death?
Discuss your unresolved issues and discuss them together
Tell me about your first love.

These questions were not only a means of getting to know each other, but also formed the conditions for mutual understanding and unity, and were able to connect people with completely different personalities. According to these questions, I think it is agreed that there is a chance to talk, understand and fall in love with someone you are attracted to. Do not hesitate. Nothing is impossible or impossible. Erich Fromm, in his book "The Art of Loving and Beloved", wrote that love is never random or unplanned, but that everyone in this universe always marries someone with the desire to be united with someone who supports and understands them.